After the reality set in that I was actually going to have a baby, I began to lament over how drastically my life was getting ready to change. Among these lamentations was all the things that I wasn’t going to be able to accomplish. Yes, I realize that having a baby is not a death sentence, but the reality is that the chances of doing certain things I once fancied a possibility will never come to fruition.
Moving to Texas– Okay, so I never actually planned on moving to Texas. And really Texas is just a metaphor for any other place outside of Atlanta. Now that I am going to be a mother, I am bound to the same city as Tim (whether we are together or not) until this child hits college. Having grown up without a solid paternal relationship, I would never consider putting great distance between the baby and Tim. Even though I am in this city without family, I am now claiming Tim and his family as my own. So that means my hopes for moving will have to wait until the college years. Perhaps I’ll get him/her to choose a Texas school!
Visiting Easter Island with my mom– My mom and I have a running list of places we’d like to visit. And if you know my mom, you know that these vacations are not pipe dreams. My momma likes to travel and I have no doubt that had I remained childless, Egypt would have been next up in the next year or so. Now that we are expecting a child (and grandchild) our travel and budget priorities have changed. I’m sure she’ll still get to go on whirlwind trips, but it will be quite some time before I will want to travel around the world (or have the money to do so).
Going Skydiving– Mind you, I have no real desire to go skydiving. At best I have fancied myself propelling tandemly out of a plane, but I knew I was too chicken to ever try it. The point, is that I can no longer live my live as a wild and free single girl. I am now living for two- literally and figuratively. That means no skydiving, bungee jumping, or unsafe carnival rides. Hell, I think twice now before I even speed. And those days of driving home after a cocktail (or three) are over. Come to think of it, none of these are really sacrifices and are things I shouldn’t be doing anyway. So, thanks, baby!
Buying a Mini Cooper– Let’s face it, a mini cooper is hardly a practical family car. How in the world could I fit a car seat, stroller, diaper bag, groceries and my cute bag in one of those little things? I was driving down the highway next to one the other day and I thought to myself, “wow, I should have bought one when I had the chance.” Alas, now I find myself looking at minivans and SUVs and wondering how soon in the future that will be a reality. I suppose someday when the little one goes off to college I’ll get that Mini Cooper, and it will be red. And a convertible!
I’m sure there are other things that I am not going to be doing in the future. Hopefully, they will not be too sorely missed. After all, a woman of a certain age really has no business dancing on table tops, right?
What are some activities/dreams that you had to give up when you became a mother?