The other day I was listening to a comedian being interviewed on a talk radio program. The comedian was talking about how earlier in his career he was working three gigs to support his family. Each day, after his second gig, he would drive nearly an hour home just to see his little girl when she got home from school. Then he would drive another hour to get to his second gig. Sure he could have had a couple of hours of downtime in between gigs, but what was important to him was seeing his daughter every day. He made time for her.
Yesterday, at the birthday party, there was a dad there with his daughter. She isn’t too much older than Foxy and surely didn’t ask to attend the party. I am certain he would have rather been at home watching football all afternoon, but there he was sitting on the floor with his little girl on his knee. He put her first. Not hot dates, or salsa lessons, or even his favorite sport. He put time with his daughter first.
Now that I have a daughter of my own, I have had to make drastic changes to my social life. Basically, I don’t have one. How could I with a new baby at home? I’ve even made changes at work. I have an upcoming event that takes place after business hours. I have planned this event from the start. I have personally selected everything from the menu to the DJ, but on the night of the event I will be there for the first fifteen minutes and then I have to say goodbye. Foxy needs to be picked up from daycare and she comes before a shrimp and grits bar and free flowing wine. She is my priority.
I am always amazed at parents that don’t put their child before everything else. How can a person bring a child into the world and then not have time for them? Not MAKE time for them?