There is a woman at Foxy’s daycare. We’ll call her Gabby. Gabby has a child in Foxy’s class that is the same age. Gabby also works in the two-year old classroom as a teacher’s assistant. Gabby isn’t really my stilo. She’s a little “ghetto” and hasn’t ever struck me as warm and fuzzy. She’d probably tell you I was too prissy and talked too much. Whatevs. Everybody ain’t for everybody.
A couple of weeks ago, as I was dropping baby off, Gabby was sitting in the infant room. There were no other teachers in sight. I observed Gabby sitting in a chair with nothing in her hands. Her son was in a bouncer on the floor and she was bouncing him with her foot. He was crying a little and she said something to the effect of “hush all that crying or you are going to get a spanking.”
Holding Foxy, I looked at her like she was crazy and said, “you aren’t going to spank him are you? he’s only five months old.” She replied that he needed a spanking since he wouldn’t stop crying.
I was stunned. I didn’t really think she was going to spank the baby, but the fact that he was crying and all she did was threaten to spank him really upset me. Wy wouldn’t she pick the baby up and soothe him or try to find out what is wrong? The fact that it was her own child upset me even more. I mean, if she is going to treat her own child like that, how in the world is she treating other people’s children?
I was getting ready to walk back out to my car with my child when the lead teacher finally showed up. I stuck around a few minutes to survey the situation and realized Foxy was in the hands of her regular caregivers. When I returned later that morning for the holiday lunch, I pulled her teacher aside and told her what I witnessed. I told her that Gabby was, under no circumstances, permitted to care for my child. And I mean that. If I find out that she is working in the infant room I will start shopping for a new daycare immediately.
Miss D appreciated my concern. She said she was sure Gabby wasn’t really intending to spank the five month old baby, but that she should watch what she says in front of parents. Hells yeah, cause I will rat your ass out every time! She said she would mention it in the next staff meeting.
About a week later I was picking Foxy up and Gabby was, once again, hanging out in the infant room. She was sitting in a chair chatting with another teacher. A third teacher was changing Gabby’s son. I asked Gabby why she was letting Miss T change her son and she said because that’s what she pays daycare for and she doesn’t change diapers between 9am and 6pm. I kinda rolled my eyes and one of the other teachers told her that Foxy’s mommy will not let them change Foxy’s diaper. I said heck no, I didn’t think it was right for me to sit there and twiddle my thumbs while they changed her diaper.
Ever since that day, I’ve noticed a cool reception from Gabby. She no longer speaks to me when I walk in the room. I don’t know if it’s because the spanking incident was brought to her attention or if she is mad about the diaper comment. And honestly I don’t care. I just know that if Gabby is still employed in the two year old room in a couple of years, I will be finding Foxy a new daycare. I’m not going to have someone that doesn’t like me caring for my child.
How do you handle conflict when it comes to your child’s care?
Would you have said something about the spanking comments?