I was watching television with my dad the last time he was in town and we came across one of those police reality shows. It might have been Police Women in the ‘nati or something like that. In one segment, they were busting women for turning tricks in a local park. They pulled the woman out of the car and she immediately started crying and giving a story about how she had lost her job and needed to get money for her kids.
While my dad snorted in disgust, I felt sorry for her. As a mother, I totally get doing “whatever it takes” to support your children. There is nothing I wouldn’t do to provide for Regan. Nothing. If I lost my job at the plantation tomorrow, my resume would be circulating by the afternoon. And if I didn’t get a job immediately, you would surely find me hustling hash browns at the nearest waffle house to earn a few dollars. Again, whatever it takes.
I don’t know why so many men don’t have the same attitude. Perhaps because they don’t spend 40 weeks gestating and developing life. But as a parent, you would think they would still be motivated to provide for their children. How can a man knowingly have a child walking around with his DNA, and refuse to take care of them? How does he sleep at night? How does he look at himself in the mirror?
So many men blame their lack of support on their relationship with the women. But the truth is that regardless of what is going on between the parents, the child still needs to eat. The child still needs clothes, medical care, daycare, formula, etc. The child still likes toys. The child still wants to participate in activities. The child’s needs never end. In fact, they only become greater as they get older.
You’ve got some men walking around here pushing 300 pounds, clearly not missing a meal. Yet, they seem to have no concern about how their child is getting food on the table. New shoes for daddy? Sure! New shoes for daughter? Never.
I guess they don’t have to worry about how their children will get by, because they know the woman is always going to do whatever it takes to provide.