There is a lot of talk in blogland about a movie coming out that focuses on dark-skinned women and their struggles growing up while feeling unattractive and inferior. When I first heard about the movie I didn’t really think too much about it. As a light-skinned woman, I never had any issues with my skin color. Quite the contrary, and to this day, I always wished I had a little more color to my skin. The darker the better, I say!
After I watched the trailer, however, it did give me pause for thought. I have a dark-skinned daughter. With the time spent outdoors, she literally looks darker every single day. And I think she is the most beautiful girl in the whole wide world.
I remember shortly after she was born, her paternal grandmother made a comment apologizing for passing her skin color on to her. That made me sad. I guess I forgot that women still had issues with their skin color. I mean, it’s 2011 after all and to hear Beyonce tell it, we run the world. I don’t think Bey specified that only those that can pass a brown paper bag test qualify.
I hope that as a child Regan never for one moment regrets the color of her skin. Black really is beautiful. I hope to instill a sense of confidence in her about her beauty. Not just her skin, but her hair, smile and even her height. I want her to walk with her chin held high knowing she is beautiful no matter if she is an NC 45 or a NW 45.
How do you instill confidence in your daughters?