One of the major motivations for me to do the big chop now as opposed to later, is the fact that I am currently not dating. Not knowing how my hair would turn out, I knew that the opposite sex might not find my new look all that fetching. I figured if men didn’t like it, it was no big deal because I’m not interested in those scallywags anyway.
The day after my big chop I was loading some stuff into the trunk of my car in a parking lot and this dude rolled up on me. “Heh heh, I’ve still got it,” I thought to myself. Then dude kept talking and I immediately thought, “crap, this is the kinda dude I’m attracting now.”
Okay, that may have been an isolated situation, but I have certainly noticed a difference in the way men react to my new do. Men that I normally catch giving me the once over now stop when they get to the top. Some of them even look confused, like they can’t figure out why the cute girl with the big booty now has an afro.
I stopped by to see the Intern the other day. I asked him if he liked my hair. He said no, but that he likes
chickenheads girls with long hair and I knew that. He was right, I did know that and wasn’t at all surprised that he didn’t like it. When he questioned whether I had juices and berries in my hair and wanted to touch it, I could only laugh. I assured him that my hair would eventually grow and he would once again be infatuated with me.
Intern is by no means my standard of man (love you Intern!), but I do think that a lot of men think the same way he does. Men have long been bamboozled by rap videos and typically think that a woman has to have long hair to be fine. I promise you, I notice a difference in men checking me out. It’s kinda weird and kinda annoying. I’m still that same me from the neck down!
For those of you that have gone from relaxed to natural, did you notice a change in men’s reaction to your new look? Did you find that you attracted different types of men? Has being natural affected your dating life at all?