As most of you know, I have a younger half-sister with whom I was not in contact with for more than a decade. Since we have been reunited, we have become close and I have enjoyed watching her blossom into a young lady. She is kind and sweet and…a 15 year-old girl with RAGING hormones.
Her parents (my dad and stepmom) will proudly tell you they have great relationship with her and the lines of communication are open, but I know otherwise. They may have talked about the birds and the bees, but I don’t think they’ve really gone into detail about the snakes and the rats.
The last time she was here I tried to start a candid dialogue with her about sex. She told me straight up she probably wouldn’t be waiting for marriage. I told her all about my experience as a teenager. I tried to warn her about the sweet talk she was sure to be given. I talked to her about birth control. She assured me she knew all she needed to know about those topics. I knew that would be the first of many conversation.
Last week, I was listening to a local radio program that was talking about teens and sex. Young girls were calling in and telling their stories and it scared me. These girl’s today have so much to deal with. I can promise you, I knew nothing about or.al sex when I was 15 years old. I can’t even imagine that girls are doing it for sport.
I called my sister and insisted she call me back as soon as school let out so we could have a sex talk. When she called me back I asked her to tell me what she knew about STDs. She gave the standard response about “bodily fluids.” I then went on a mini-rant about or.al sex and STDs. I was shocked when she admitted to me that she didn’t know you could catch an STD from or.al sex. And I was even more shocked when she admitted she didn’t know there were STDs that couldn’t be cured. What the hell are her parents teaching her?
Little Sister has a new boyfriend. I use that term loosely because she isn’t actually allowed to go on dates. She is going to her first dance this weekend and is super excited. I don’t want to seem like a wet blanket, but I feel like we need to have a couple more real sex talks before she puts on her high-heeled shoes and steps out with this boy.
So, what topics do you think are important for me to discuss with her? Remember, she looks to me for advice so I have to be careful not to be too parental when dealing with her. I want her to know that she can trust me and talk to me about anything.
But I will drop a dime on her ass if I think she is doing anything inappropriate.